Valentine’s Day should be the day of love and romance, roses and
chocolate. Right? For some yes, but for divorce lawyers, February is well
into the swing of Divorce Season. Studies conducted by
AVVO cite to a 40% spike in new divorce filings in the days around Valentine’s
Day. Cynically, many point to someone not getting the right gift for Christmas
or not enough flowers for Valentine’s Day. Others point to learning
that a spouse shared Valentine’s Day with a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Since many marriages end because of financial stress, another reason for
the rise in divorce could be getting the bills from Christmas in the mail
and fighting about how to pay them.
If you are planning for divorce in February, whatever the reason, be sure
that you are ready for the reality of divorce. Make sure you have fully
considered the very real emotional and financial negatives of divorce.
Many women are worse off financially after divorce than they were before
– some sinking into poverty level post-divorce. Others are lonely
and scared to be alone. Think through what your situation will be after
the separation and divorce. How will you pay the bills? Where will you
live? Can you afford to keep the house or should you look elsewhere? Do
you know what assets exist that are Texas community property subject to
division during the divorce? Do you have access to cash to pay for living
expenses when the divorce is first filed until a Court can enter temporary
orders providing grounds rules for how the bills will be paid? And that
doesn’t even begin to cover the issues surrounding finding and hiring
a good Texas divorce lawyer to help you through the process.
There may not be answers to each of those questions – they may be
ongoing thoughts. But start the process of thinking about them.